The other night, after it became obvious that my stay in the Valley of Rejection would be longer than I’d hoped, I was thinking about what direction God wanted to take me. I had to admit, I didn’t know. Should I continue down the fiction writing path? Had I misread God? Has my focus been in all the wrong places all of these years?
One of my favorite verses came to mind as I lay in bed mulling things over. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths.”
It struck me that I do a lot of leaning on what I can understand. And since I rarely understand God’s ways, I’m often frustrated. I decided that I need to do more leaning on Him and less assuming that I know what God is up to. I also began to pray, “Lord direct my path.”
In the process, I’ve continued my reading in Genesis, and last night I came to the place where Jacob is going to Egypt to see his son Joseph, whom he hasn’t seen in about twenty-two years. In all that time, Jacob thought Joseph was dead.
As I was reading, I came to a place where it says that God met with Jacob and told him not to be afraid to go to Egypt, that he would indeed see Joseph again. And I thought, why, in twenty-two years, didn’t God tell Jacob that his son Joseph was still alive? Why did he allow that man to grieve needlessly?
If God had told Jacob of Joseph’s whereabouts, I could envision the man saddling his donkeys and sending out a search party to rescue the lad from whomever had taken him. He would not have been content to let Joseph sit in a foreign land for twenty-two years, when he could have brought him home and made him heir to all that Jacob had. But if he had done that, God’s plan to keep Israel alive throughout the coming famine by bringing them to Egypt would have been thwarted. And God’s plans are never thwarted. His will always prevails.
I can see now why God kept quiet about Joseph’s whereabouts. He had a greater purpose in mind that only He could see. Is that why He doesn’t reveal similar news to other grieving parents? I don’t know. There are things God chooses to tell us and things He chooses to keep from us. We can’t always understand His ways.
In a smaller sense, I don’t always understand why He keeps quiet when I ask Him what plans He has for my writing. What purpose could there possibly be in keeping me in the Valley of Rejection for so long? Especially when He allows others to climb the mountain ahead of me, or to climb higher than I imagined was possible.
But I see now that if I knew ahead of time, like Jacob, I might be tempted to take off in search of something before God’s time, ruining the greater purpose, the better plans He’s prepared for me.
No, I don’t understand the reason for waiting, but after seeing how God dealt with Jacob, I think I can accept it with a little more grace. And stop leaning so hard on my limited understanding.